Parenting expert Jo Frost is encouraging families to rethink everyday habits that may unintentionally limit a child’s independence, arguing that constant assistance can prevent children from developing confidence and resilience.
The Supernanny star recently criticized what she describes as “lazy” parenting—not as a reflection of a parent’s love or dedication, but as a tendency to do too much for children in the interest of convenience, speed, or avoiding frustration.
According to Frost, the issue often appears in small, routine moments. Children who are capable of walking may still be pushed in strollers, pacifiers may be used as a quick solution to discomfort, and parents may routinely take over tasks such as tying shoes, managing personal hygiene, or completing simple responsibilities that children could learn to handle themselves.
While those choices can seem practical for busy families juggling packed schedules and daily stress, Frost argues that they may come at a cost. She believes children build self-confidence by practicing skills, making mistakes, and gradually learning to solve problems on their own.
Her message is that independence is developed through opportunity and repetition. By allowing children to take on age-appropriate responsibilities, parents can help them build resilience and prepare for challenges later in life.
Frost’s comments have sparked discussion among parents, with supporters agreeing that encouraging independence is essential, while others point out that every family’s circumstances and parenting approach are different. Regardless of where parents stand, her central message remains clear: sometimes helping less can teach children more.
