An Australian sexuality educator, Deanne Carson, has sparked a heated online debate by suggesting that parents ask their babies for permission before changing diapers. Carson argues that introducing a “culture of consent” from birth helps teach respect for personal boundaries, even if infants cannot provide verbal responses. Her approach involves narrating actions—such as saying, “I’m going to change your diaper now, is that okay?”—and paying attention to the baby’s body language to establish early awareness of personal agency.
Carson emphasizes that the practice is less about receiving a formal answer and more about building trust and communication. By observing coos, giggles, or movements, parents can respond to their child’s non-verbal cues, aligning with pediatric guidance on healthy infant interaction. She explains that leaving a small space for babies to express themselves, even physically, allows them to understand that their responses matter, fostering early two-way communication.
The idea has faced significant criticism, with some calling it impractical or “lunacy,” arguing that infants are too young to comprehend consent. Critics on social media and experts like John Rosemond and Rowan Dean describe it as unnecessary and potentially confusing. However, supporters defend Carson’s intentions, saying that even if babies cannot consent, communicating with them respectfully promotes awareness and nurtures positive parent-child relationships. Ultimately, whether parents adopt this approach depends on individual parenting styles and comfort levels.
